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Dr. Alok Kanojia is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist and cofounder of Healthy Gamer. He designs mental health education and coaching for young people to understand their minds and build the lives they want. Learn more about Dr. K’s mental health resources at Healthy Gamer: https://bit.ly/3KijYSs Find us on Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, and more here: https://wlo.link/@healthygamer ▼ Timestamps ▼ ──────────── 00:00 – Preview 00:10 – Guru CTA 00:24 – Reddit post 03:19 – What am I if I fail? 07:03 – “You can’t BE a successful author” 08:58 – All you can do is what you can do 12:13 – Conclusion ──────────── DISCLAIMER Healthy Gamer is an online community and resource platform for gamers and their families. It does not provide medical services or professional counseling, and it is not a substitute for professional medical care. Our coaches are peer supporters, not professionally trained experts, and they cannot provide medical service. If you or a loved one are experiencing an emergency, please call your nation’s emergency telephone number. All guests of Healthy Gamer are informed of the public, non-medical nature of the content and have expressly agreed to share their story.
Thank you so much Dr. K. I’ve never before heard the correct pronunciation of Bhagavad Gita.
God, I ended up crying while listening to this. I’m going to put this on my whiteboard!!
As a writer, this is truly inspiring and motivating. I feel like I’ve already learned some of what you’ve shared here through experience, but having it put into words like this has helped me to better frame that experience and start to work through some of the difficulties I’m still struggling with.
Sincerely, thank you for this! I’m saving this to my computer so that I’ll have it available anytime I need some encouragement.
Thank you, Dr. K, for another fantastic, fantastically synchronized topic video that is highly relevant to where I am in my journey. Thank you for your existence and your online presence. It certainly has been nice crossing paths with you and your content.
I’m not a writer, I just do stuff. I write a blog post every single day, why? Cause I can. I enjoy doing stuff.
I’m 21 years old with similar dreams to this man, and because being successful was so important to me I obsessively studied all the success stories, and much to the dismay of my younger self who wanted to be able to plan for his success, one of the most prominent patterns I picked up on was that they almost always were completely blindsided by their success. Scott Cawthon, Fnaf was supposed to be his final farewell to a long unforgiving career. Toby Fox, Undertale was just supposed to be preparation for Deltarune, and was not supposed to blow up like it did. The list goes on. I searched for the truth of what it would take to be successful, and the truth that rung the loudest was that that prideful and ambitious drive in antithetical to the freedom/potency of spirit that the people who make it big usually have got. Scott made fnaf when he was of the mindset that it no longer mattered whether or not he did it well. Toby made Undertale when he was of the mindset that it didn’t matter yet whether or not he did it well. Maybe the only way to truly do something well is to stop caring about whether or not you’re doing it well, because this type of thing is a lot like seeking a romantic relationship, where desperation only pushes away what you’re looking for.
I just discovered your channel. I’m not sure why your channel is gear toward gamers. The info here is so universal.
Except agents only want to sign on with already successful authors. Right?
Very interested on people’s thoughts. If dr k can watch the anime, that’d be amazing.
An anime titled Blue Lock is currently being aired and it centres around the the idea that you need a massive amount of ego to be the best and achieve amazing things like winning the world cup.
It’s about a soccer player, who was taught to depend on others and be a team player, only to be told that ego is what leads you to scoring more goals than your opponent. The anime follows his journey into a battle royale like arena, concocted to produce one player who will lead Japan to winning the world cup. Fear of being disqualified and losing his chance to play professionally, the main character fights to grow and improve his arsenal of skills.
I think it’s an interesting take on the topic and I find myself agreeing a lot, but I don’t know how much of it is true. Does having a massive amount of ego correlate to being successful?
A separate video about ego, how it manifests, works, impacts, different types etc. Would be really great
this ones a banger
Anybody wanna share each other’s stories? Need beta readers? Need a buddy to fangirl about your characters with?
lol I’m literally a 39 year old writer who never took my chances. You couldn’t create a more relevant video for someone like me if you addressed it to my fucking house! This was great. Thank you.
The one most important thing I learned from this video is:
Just accept that even if I try my very best, I could still fail miserably. If I try my best, there is nothing more I could do, I would be unsuccessful, but I would also have tried the best I ever would.
I need better words for this profound insight. hmm
Maybe I’m not in a paralyzed situation like him, but I do appreciate what’s being said here.
NTS: 11:29 ish mindset shift: it’s liberating and humbling if you really try and still don’t succeed (the world doesn’t give you results you might expect) It isn’t my fault bc I tried my best, humbling = I can’t control life/others
genius happens to you – more about luck of events (serendipity)/outside factors working for you rather than you being able to control it
my only skill is perseverance, so i feel like i have the opposite problem to this.